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Tim
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what a load of rubbish these comments it made my eyes bleed.

Joanne
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When all is said and done you are probably right, there will always be addicts. Society has known for generations that alcohol/tobacco/ drugs are highly addictive and yet people continue to booze, smoke and use.

Even if I had been aware that gambling too is highly addictive I doubt I would have heeded the warnings. It wouldnt have deterred me. I reckon I was hooked within minutes of placing my first spin.

I think some of us are destined to be addicts. Trust me to have chosen an expensive one.

However I still think there should be a blanket ban on advertising gambling. People should be allowed to watch sport etc without the constant temptation to place a bet. Bingo, slots, scratchcards adverts paint the picture that you’re guaranteed to have a good time, walk away a winner, that’s false advertising.

Joanne

‘Tim’ that’s tooooo sweet a name for a bad boy. Lol

Joanne
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73.

Joanne
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Always rushing, meant to add

Most of us have commented that we slept walked into our addiction ie no alarm bells ringing!

It should be uppermost in our minds the link between gambling and addiction but of course the industry sells it under the disguise of fun.

Joanne
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I guess when people talk about drugs, smoking or alcohol they immediately link them with addiction. For example, the word drug and addict practically go hand in hand. When we think about drugs , warning bells start ringing … drugs, highly addictive.

Would a persons first thought be to link gambling with addiction? I’m not so convinced. They would probably see gambling as a bit of harmless fun, their immediate thought wouldn’t be addiction. In other words, there would be no warning bells !

A lot more needs to be done to raise awareness that gambling is highly addictive so that it would be uppermost in a persons mind, the link between gambling and addiction.

Hope this makes sense.

Joanne

Jane
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Responsible gambling is not just about the clean up process. If it is, then it is doing nothing more than providing a person with a place to recover once they are sick. It must tackle this problem at every stage. It is not just about programs and initiatives put in place to protect people and provide support once the damage is done. Many measures are about providing support and protection to established addicts. I want to see much more done to prevent people from becoming addicts in the first place. Some campaigners believe that the industry is trying to create a nation of addicts, not players. I tend to agree.

Prevention is key. I am talking about the irresponsible promotion and endless endorsement of gambling and the normalisation of gambling into society. Also, the targeting of vulnerable people and misuse of personal information to seek out people who are in debt or going through stressful situations like illness, marriage breakup and divorce. I have been targeted personally in this way and it is immoral to use someone’s credit history to encourage them to gamble. I received emails at the end of each month, telling me to try to double what little money I had left, since ‘we know money is tight right now’, and messages such as ‘make payday today, why wait till the end of the month?’.

I want to see an end to gambling companies inviting people personally to use their services, so an end to personal invites in your inbox. I want gambling companies to only be able to contact a person in this way, if they have asked for it or allowed third party contact from other sites. I want a vast reduction in TV and radio advertising and I want the ads to be passive. In other words, they should not openly ask you to come and bet with them, come and beat the casino or make suggestions that you are smart and clever for betting. eg, ‘the smart money’s on Coral, ‘Why aren’t YOU in Sky Vegas? ‘In play betting, for the people who know the score’ and ‘where gut instincts meets smarts’. Just like the Ladbrokes Lad’s Life ad was banned for implying ‘Once is lucky, twice is talent’. These all dangerously massage the gambler’s ego and are a trigger for people with addictive tendencies.
I also would like to see gambling lose its grip on the nation’s favourite sports both in television advertising and also in shirt sponsorship.
More needs to be done to regulate the development of gambling websites and machines because the industry deliberately make a product addictive by design. The industry has the audacity to encourage us to responsibly use a product which has been designed to be highly addictive just to cover them for any blame.

I want to see bookies uphold self exclusions and be penalised much more if they allow people to bet while excluded. Self exclusion is an agreement made by both parties, but it is the bookie who needs to uphold their end much more since the addict by definition is not always able to do so, and that is why they have asked to be turfed out should the situation arise.
Bookies pushed their message of responsibility by saying that they would not allow card use on FOBT’s, that it would be cash only to prevent people spending more than they wanted to, yet they allowed players to remotely add money to the machines from the counter by card, making this a completely empty gesture.

I want a more balanced, healthy society. I want to be able to buy some groceries on my local high street, not just see payday lenders, pawn shops and bookies. We are made to feel as though it is our fault when we develop addiction which leaves people feeling defective and depressed and as I said before, on the wrong side of society. The gambling industry repeatedly tell us that gambling is a fun and social pass time for the majority of people, but when it goes wrong for the apparent minority, it is implied it is because of our personality, our make up, our being predisposed to addiction. For many who then look inwards as to why this has happened to them, this makes addiction a lonely, secretive and shameful condition when in reality, gambling is designed to do just that. There should be no shame on the addict whatsoever and total shame on the industry.

The government and the gambling industry need to realise that we are not an endless conveyor belt, welcomed in one end with open arms and churned out the other to share our experiences on sites like these once they have extracted our livelihood. We are people and people matter more than profits.

Joanne
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I wish the pokies had carried a ‘These machines are designed to be highly addictive’ WARNING but would that have stopped me playing them. Who knows?

Enjoying life in the real world, don’t even think about online gambling now, thanks to GAMSTOP.
Always grateful to J Larcombe whose book I read and confirmed my suspicions that I was indeed a gambling addict. Grateful to the people who brought about Gamstop.

I visit the GC, these guys discuss the rogue casinos. I do feel a bit foolish for playing on these rogue sites but what’s done is done. It has strengthened my resolve never to touch online gambling again.

I haven’t told anyone in the real world about my addiction, hopefully I will find the strength to free myself so I don’t have to.

However, still trying to dodge the lotto kiosks! Lol

So far, so good, day 72!

KIGF.

Joanne

Monica
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Hi Jane, like reading your posts, the only emotional intelligent posts on the site.

Rollin on the floor with laughter
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Hahahahahahaha hahahahahahahahaha Monica stop taking the piss!

Jane
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Hey Monica, hope you are doing good. I don’t mention anybody by name much anymore because I don’t wish to encourage anyone to come here, but I still wish everyone well and hope they are still gamble free.
I feel sorry for anyone affected by gambling issues that finds this site. It no longer serves the purpose for which it was created. Stay well, Monica. You have achieved so much and should be very proud of where you are heading.
All the best.

Grrrrrrrr
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It was created for people to tell their story. Unfortunately people weren’t allowed to tell their story because the wannabee therapist/psychologist/gambling expert always had to analyse every post and tell people how they should think and feel, inbetween accusing some of them of things they weren’t guilty of. I think she truly believes that she’s indispensable and owns the forum. Delusional or what.

Some of us are doing really well with our gamble-free days so a bit insulting to those of us who are really trying, and also to say that the forum isnt serving any purpose. I’ve been enjoying the banter on here and it’s been a distraction from gambling.

People can have a bit of fun whilst they’re trying to give up gambling!

Of course, she’d much prefer it if we all sat listening to her, so she could get to play ‘the expert’. She’s not a qualified counsellor etc, she’s a gambling addict just like the rest of us. So I wish she would stop talking down to us, and telling us how we should think and feel.

She’s just told some of us that we’re full of self-loathing. ?????? I think the fact that some of us can enjoy a bit of banter demonstrates that we can still manage a bit of fun which is probably a sign that we’re not in the least full of self-loathing. The fact that some of us don’t hate or blame the industry as much as others probably is a sign that we don’t feel as bitter and accept responsibility for our actions.

So loved up!
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I think Monica would like to get it on with Jane.

Jane
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Although I really cannot be bothered to engage with attention seekers, I will humour you with a response just this once. I know intelligent conversation is a little lacking on here but I figured you would know from the context that I am referring to the gambling industry not wanting to address it, casting addicts aside with disregard when they are broke and no longer turning in a profit for the industry. Then they advertise tirelessly for more to fill your place and continue to market their product as ‘fun’. Do you think the bookies would tolerate those made homeless through gambling, sleeping in their doorway? They are no good for business are they? They dodge the blame by telling us to use gambling responsibly. Would they tell you to have fun with a little bit of cocaine, but do it responsibly?

I am of course grateful for Gamstop and all the help and support and I have said so many times, but it is only natural for some addicts to resent their decision to stop. Resentment has zero to do with gratitude and everything to do with addiction. I’ll give you a moment to go and look up those big words…..

Anyway, while you are sitting at home, wondering what to write with your crayon in order to amuse yourself and ease your own self loathing, I am pushing for change, signing petitions and leading a successful gamble free life. Perhaps you should try it. You will be less angry.
Oh, and I am sure the creators of this site would be thrilled to see the way you are abusing it after they have worked hard to make this a place of friendship and support for addicts.
Talk about ungrateful.

I’ll leave you to get back to talk of semen and bodily fluids.

Jack
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Bet you love a bit of semen all over your chops

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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If that piece of garbled rubbish that you wrote this morning was intelligent conversation, I think you should go back and re-read it. I lost count of the number of times you contradicted yourself.

She made an ass of herself and now she’s doing her usual, backtracking. Always playing the victim of course. With regard to self loathing, the person most full of self loathing is yourself.

I do believe the gambling industry fund Gamcare, albeit pennies.

Yep, more needs to be done to highlight the fact and warn people that gambling can be addictive.

As for drugs some people can use them responsibly. Alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, some people can enjoy them responsibly, unfortunately others will become addicted.

But there is help out there if people are serious about giving up.

Jane, thinks she knows it all! She believes herself to be more intelligent than the rest of us.

I’m warning you, Joanne. I may be blonde but I’m not dumb.

Hahahahahahaha

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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And if she’s wondering why?

1. For wasting 3 minutes of my life reading that shit

And more importantly

“You are suddenly on the wrong side of society and nobody wants to address it”

A bit insulting to

Gamcare (30th anniversary)

Gordon Moody

Gam Anon etc

The good people who worked tirelessly to bring about

GAMSTOP

The reduction in fobt stake

The people like J Larcombe, Simon, Nik who told their story to raise awareness.

Still more to be done of course, but talk about ungrateful!

Jane
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I spent 8 years seeing life in only two colours: black and red. I was blind to everything else. Roulette was on my mind every single day. It didn’t matter if it was Christmas Day, it was just another day to ruin. Even though I knew I’d lose, I still wanted to bet. I needed to. I saw those numbers in everyday things, everywhere I went. I saw things as a sign of what to bet on, when it had no significance at all. You tell yourself that these numbers of yours are magic, they have significance, they are your lucky numbers. They have so much power over you when in actual fact, they have zero bearing on the outcome of a game. It is after all, completely random, well, if it is a legitimate casino at least. No matter what I was doing, gambling always tormented me. Sometimes it was just quietly on my mind, other times, it was invasive and took over everything.

Like many people, I loved it and equally, I hated it. I hated giving it up even more. I resent it still. I know it is what I need but it is most definitely not what I want. I still want to gamble, I just don’t want the aftermath, the harm, or the loss of control. I am re-reading Allen Carr’s book at the moment just to remind myself of why I am doing this and why I have to change my mentality. I am always most at risk the longer I go. Life starts to feel more positive and the prospect of gambling and winning looks good too.
I know this is just the addict trying to claw back control and I am lucky enough to have some good people around me to help me stay on track. Who’d of thought my own daughter would be helping me see the sense in staying gamble free. She is currently doing addiction in psychology and I am her case study slash guinea pig! We are learning a lot from each other and it is a tremendous relief to talk this out with someone I love. Her understanding helps to lessen the guilt and shame that has fuelled this addiction. It really shows how powerful gambling addiction is when you keep it to yourself. Being able to share this with loved ones and even my GP has made me feel normal again. Gambling is such a dirty word and makes you feel defective. I can say I have a problem now and they can say it’s okay. This needs to happen more in society. People need to share their suffering without judgement so that their problems can be addressed. That acknowledgement is priceless. Much of that harmful shame goes away when you share it and so does that need to continue gambling, trying to undo your mistakes by making them over and over again. It is hard to talk about, no doubt about that but I can honestly say that I would still be gambling now, trying to recover my losses, had I not spoken up.

Gambling is so socially acceptable and actively encouraged so long as you do it responsibly, but develop a problem and you are suddenly on the wrong side of society and no one wants to address it. You are nothing more than a user, an addict and suddenly gambling is not such an attractive word.

I’ll be honest and say that I do wish things were different. I wish I hadn’t ruined gambling for myself. It’s sad that I feel that way, despite all the harm but it’s true. I wish I could have done things responsibly, but I didn’t. It was just too destructive so it had to stop.
Without gambling, life is more colourful. It isn’t easy, but I am starting to feel human again though there is still a long way to go. I miss gambling but I do not miss the suffering. It is hard to replace it so I don’t try to. I just concentrate on being me. I have urges probably every day. That is honest. I hope things will get better the longer I go. This is certainly a good run for me.
Day 142 and proud of myself. 31 to go and I will have beaten my best!
Life can and will get better. Just give yourself a chance.
Wishing everyone well. Please keep going, keep trying despite this failing website.

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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AMEN.

Anybody got any eggs?

Boooooorrrringggggggg
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Or a baseball bat

Joanne
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71.

⚠️Joanne
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I became suspicious that all wasn’t right on the forum when Sad Lady appeared, followed by John (English not his first language John). When he made the quip to me about L Lohan shoes, I was convinced. Lol

Lets face it nobody genuine has come to this forum in a very long time. Folk who did quickly moved on to Gamcare or the GC.

I made up Julie and yep I did the horse-racing Rethink Cup. Sheer boredom.

Joanne

Day 70. Resisted all those bloody lotto kiosks. If Im honest it was touch and go. Came in here, saw I was about to hit 70 days and I think that swayed it.

⚠️ Joanne
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I think Kate, Jane, Nik, Andy, Loser, Monica Duncan and Mat would have all gotten along in harmony. I think everyone else would have dropped off anyway. I think people looking for professional help went to Gamcare and those seeking some banter went to the GC.

I find it odd that you no longer talk to each other.

That’s it, confession over.

Joanne

⚠️ Joanne
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But then again, I guess you’re all feeling like twats.

You gotta luv John.

Joanne

John
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Die you cunt

Joanne
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Don’t be like that, John. You were probably driven by boredom.

In fairness to me, I did ask you guys to drop it when you first started to blame me for trolling myself .

Ah well.

Joanne

⚠️ Joanne
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69.

⚠️Joanne
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I’ve just added ‘Many Disguises’ to my list of folk Im no longer intetested in communicating with.

I gave you the benefit of the doubt , I thought you were a gambling addict, someone who was struggling with this addiction , someone I could help but now I’m not so convinced.

I come here to record my days because I have really, really struggled with this addiction. I’d still be gambling if it wasnt for Gamstop. Ive never once regretted signing up, its allowed me the space to finally get a grip on this addiction. I always loved spinning those reels but I hated the price tag.

I need somewhere to go to record my days , something to connect with, nobody knows aboug my gambling, thats why I come here.

From now on, I’m keeping myself to myself.

Joanne

oooooooohyeeeeeeeahhhhh
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Lol don’t be like that Joanne. you know your my little slut, jealousy doesnt suit you

⚠️ Joanne
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I’m not jealous of anyone, I’m just tired of being called a twat.

Joanne

ooooooooohhhhyeaahhhhh
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I didn’t call you a twat

⚠️Joanne
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Have you relapsed? Is that why you went a bit nasty? I know fine it was you who called me a boring twat!

In the city, 4 hour round trip, work related, really struggling avoiding lotto terminals. Hopefully I can hold out. Just posting this to knock some sense into myself.

Joanne

oooooooohyeeeeeeeahhhhh
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I did not call you a twat Joanne, Anon wasn’t me, i’d admit it if it was me. I’m not every character on here you know

oooooooohyeeeeeeeahhhhh
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Sorry Ahmed I meant

⚠️Joanne
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Sorry!

oooooooohyeeeeeeeahhhhh
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Apology accepted sexxxxayyyyyyy gurl

⚠️ Joanne
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My piggy bank does. I’m nursing him back to health, he’s getting to be one fat b****d but I ain’t putting him on a diet. ;)

Gambling seems to be getting less and less appealing. Oooops, I forgot, nobody cares.

And stop sneakin around at night! Lol

Joanne

⚠️ Joanne
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Day 68. ✔

AHMED
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NOBODY CARES YOU BORING TWAT!

Anon
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Stop picking on Joanne, you creep.

Jane
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4 months and 2 full weeks without gambling. Things are going okay. I am still seeking out sites to bet with some days, but had the resolve to self exclude straight afterwards. I had hoped it would be harder now I am with the program but it just shows the enormity of sites out there and the fact that new ones are added all the time. Luckily, many of the sites left unprotected don’t offer the payment methods I need to gamble. They were all obscure methods or those which I have already blocked to gambling.

If I can just hold on until early next year, things should be more secure for online gamblers like me. I know seeking out sites is only half hearted. It is the gambler in me acting out. Part of me just likes to know I can still bet if I want to, whether I intend to have a go or not. It is hard to accept that what I do for myself is in my best interest when all I want at the time is just to let the gambler loose. There are times when I really resent signing up with Gamstop because I feel I have cut my own throat at times, stupid as that may sound. It will take many years to undo the gambling mentality and a lifetime of managing this disease.
I intend to beat my best of last year which was just shy of 6 months. There is some way to go but I am confident that I can do this.

It is interesting what might happen if Labour take over, though it is only right they clean up the mess they made in the first place. What they are proposing is pretty much what I have been asking for all this time: no more gambling on credit cards, a vast reduction in gambling ads and giving people back control over their finances by giving them the right to block their cards. I find it ridiculous that my card has been blocked so many times for ‘fraud’ when I am just trying to pay my own bills, yet many banks won’t budge on this feature with regard to gambling. My banks have, in the past, allowed me to bury myself during binges, allowing deposit after deposit, amounting to several thousand on my bank card but get twitchy at me wanting to pay a £60 bill. The banks are right in that sense, it is our money and we can do what we want with it. The fact was, deep down, I didn’t want to gamble. I just did because I could. That’s why people ask for intervention after all.

Natwest have a gambling block feature which you can do quickly by live chat. It will block both online gambling and FOBT use, I am told. I have been asking the Halifax, my other bank, for some time now to follow suit but as yet, they cannot offer this service.
I guess we’ll see what happens. Either way, it’s good that people are talking about change. We need to lose the stigma with addiction.
Wishing everyone well.

oooooooohyeeeeeeeahhhhh
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Jane, can I cum in your face please? Joanne is a right sort. Are you?

⚠️ Joanne
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Day 67.

⚠️Joanne ⚠️
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No betting on the ⚽️or spinning fruit!

⚠️ Keep it gamble free⚠️ Keep it gamble free ⚠️keep it gamble free⚠️

;)

EM
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Day 1. Lost. Alone. Depressed and realise that after 25 years to a point of almost losing everything and already having lost so much that this is the day I stop gambling. No more I burden my soul or distress others.

Day one.

EM

⚠️Joanne ⚠️
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There’s always a way back! You’ve taken that very important first step to finally walk away from gambling. You’re now on the right track. Keep moving in this direction, don’t look back. Day by day, things will get better as gambling loosens its grip on you.

All the best on your journey to a better life.

Joanne

⚠️Joanne ⚠️
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A few nuggets of advice to keep you on track …

1. Always a good idea (if possible) to let someone know (trusted relative/ friend ) before you embark about your impending journey to a gamble free life life. It will make you more accountable and a problem shared is a problem halved.

2. Close off all avenues that could allow you to travel backwards to that gambling hell. Register with Gamstop, put in place self exclusions etc.

3. Restrict access to cash. No point in carrying the price of a return ticket in your pocket! Lol

4. When you feel tempted to return to your old gambling haunts, try and recognise the triggers, boredom, stress, a bad day, etc. Always remember to never let your emotions over rule your intelligence. Gambling is a losing game. We can’t win because we can’t stop.

GOOD LUCK!

⚠️Joanne ⚠️
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And one last thing ….

Avoid …. ⚠️Joanne⚠️ !

Joanne
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⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️

Day 66

Joanne

Joanne
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⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️

65 days gf!

Joanne

Joanne
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⚠️ lol

Joanne
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When I first arrived here I put up a post saying how I fell in love with online gambling and mentioned a large win. Of course I didn’t win, because I gave the money back within hours of winning it. Kate and Jane scoffed about how could anybody love gambling, in fairness to them, they were hurting badly. Some of the others argued that I shouldn’t be mentioning big wins. I argued that they were part of my story and why would I not mention them. I got banned and felt resentful because I didn’t think I’d done anything wrong, I was just giving an honest account of my gambling.

I think it all spiralled from that point.

Mat, Jane, Nik, Kate, Carl , were all singing from the same hymn sheet. Monica joined them.

You Andy, probably sat on the fence, I think you’re probably a team player and like harmony.

Loser started off on my side of the fence and then crossed over.

Then the troll appeared. Everyone thought it was me, but of course I knew he existed.
To begin with I thought it was one of the Rethink Regulars winding me up.

Over time, I thought, this guy has too much background knowledge on the other posters so I knew he’d been around the forum a long time. I thought he had to be someone with gambling issues. I think he just got bored and started saying outrageous things to ease the boredom, all done under many disguises. He’s certainly ran circles around me but if I’m honest he does make me laugh with all his different characters. I realise that most of you don’t get him because of course you still think he’s me.

Anyway, I really am going to try and leave this forum.

Keep counting those days Andy!

All the best everyone, time to draw a line under everything and hopefully you guys can continue keeping in touch.

Bye.

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Joanne
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Andy, I’ve no quarrel with you, you’re probably the most diplomatic person on the forum. A straightforward guy. All the very best to you.

I would very much like to see all you guys reunite and continue to support each other as you did in the past . I can’t be part of it because I feel too much resentment .

I just wanted to explain how it was from my side of the fence.
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Joanne

Andy
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I get what you’re saying, too much has gone on. Just for the record I don’t believe you are the multiple characters on here, you’d have to be a complete weirdo to do that, and you aren’t that. I hope we can still communicate when I post, things are going ok so far, I hope and pray I can keep it up. All the best and NO LOOSE CHANGE lol

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