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Joanne
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Good morning! Although I dont particularly feel very good, serves me right for hittin’ the booze.

Thanks for all the replies, I’m feeling overwhelmed!

You’ve got me fillin’ up .. hahaha

Have a great weekend … until Sunday keep on the straight and narrow.

Joanne

Joanne
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Mind you I’ve been up since 4.45! Woke up to the noise of the nearby burn (stream/brook) gurgling away and the sound of the birds singing like they’d formed a choir! Not quite sure if their efforts were appreciated this morning.

It’s gonna be another beautiful day.

(I just want to add perhaps I come across as ‘casual’ , flippant on the surface but underneath I’m taking this addiction very seriously.)

Joanne

Joanne
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I’ve had a beautiful day talking with you all hahahahahaha

The weather’s been glorious, free drinks on the house and I haven’t gambled a penny.

So goodnight me darlin’s, I’ll cya soon!

Joanne x

Joanne
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There’s nothing more I can add or say, it seems nobody is interested or willing to post.

Perhaps I’m just talking to myself. Nobody ever responds.

I give up. I dont know why I bother.

Anyway, I’m getting off work early so I think a few more drinks are in order when I get home. Lol

Joanne

Joanne
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Just want to thank ..

Justyn Larcombe for writing so honestly about his addiction. After reading his book, Tails I lose, I quickly came to realise that I too had become addicted to gambling and my life was spiralling out of control. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, reading your story put me on the road to recovery. If I hadn’t read your book, I’m absolutely convinced I would have carried on gambling and probably lost everything.

NIK, despite our differences, it was a privilege to read your book also. I know life hasn’t been easy for you, be proud of what you have achieved.

Rethink … for allowing me to post here. THANK YOU. Having somewhere to go, to connect with, keep a diary, chart my progress etc has been instrumental in helping me.

GAMSTOP … I’ll forever be grateful to you guys who brought about Gamstop. I was seriously beginning to believe that I would never get on top of this addiction.

To everyone, thank you for sharing your story and for all the nuggets of excellent advice.

Sorry for the part I played in how things played out on here.

I dont know what else I can say …

All the very best,

Joanne

Joanne
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Seriously, if your gambling has spiralled out of control seek help, the sooner the better.

This addiction is not to be taken lightly, never underestimate the destruction it can cause to you and your loved ones.

Put in as many layers of protection as you possibly can ..

Register with Gamstop

Hand over control of your finances to a trusted person

I think some banks are now willing to block gambling transactions on your behalf so something to consider.

Confide in someone, it will make you more accountable, a problem shared is a problem halved. Gambling thrives on secrets. Don’t gamble in secret, don’t lead a double life. If you’re doing something in secret, the chances are, you shouldn’t be doing it.

Never , ever feel ashamed about what’s happened to you, anyone can fall prey to an addiction.

Seek counselling if you feel you have underlying issues or you feel you may benefit from just having someone to talk to. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Gamcare offer free, confidential counselling sessions.

Give yourself time, be patient, and slowly but surely you will begin to see that life is so much better free from gambling.

All the best

Joanne

Joanne
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Whenever I think about gambling I have this image in my head of myself, my home, my personal belongings, MY LIFE, all engulfed in flames, everthing going up in smoke.

I stop and ask myself is that what I want, to risk losing everything?

That’s what us compulsive gamblers do every time we gamble, we risk putting everything on the line including relationships.

Don’t play with fire, keep it GAMBLE FREE!

Joanne

Joanne
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Okay, before anyone else gets tempted to say it …. FFS JOANNE, shut to f**k up! Hahaha hahaha

Have a great evening or maybe it’s good morning!

;) xxxxx

Joanne
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Anyway, life’s pretty damn good, I think I can honestly say that I don’t miss gambling. I’ve noticed these past few weeks that I’ve finally stopped dwelling on the money lost . There has definitely been a major shift in the way I think about gambling. It’s lost its glamour for me. I’m not entirely out of the woods , still get the occasional urge to buy a scratcher but I dont act.

Tbc

Joanne
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On saying that, life was pretty darn good before I discovered online gambling so I guess I’ve come full circle.

I’ve got the life I want, I enjoy my job, dont get too involved with people, keeping friendships ‘light’ so I can still pretty much please myself in my free-time.

I enjoyed Easter so much more this year without the stress of having folk to stay. Usually I’d be stressing which would lead to drinking/gambling. It’s okay to be kind to yourself!

I stumbled across online gambling shortly after my son left home and it lit a fire in me, one that got quickly out of control. I thought it was exciting but now, although I’m not ‘anti-gambling’, I realise the devastation gambling can cause to some of us so I must never play with fire! Although like I’ve just said, it does seem to have lost its appeal. It’s just so pointless, destructive.

Yes it has cost me financially, but that can be rectified, worse things have happened at sea.

If you feel you’ve lost control of your life because of online gambling don’t despair. Things have got better e.g. Gamstop. There’s a lot of help out there.

Lovin the gamble free life ….

Joanne

I think I’d better go and pretend to be busy!! I’m supposed to be working. Lol

Joanne
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It’s hard to gauge who still visits the forum. Is it pride, the desire to remain a mystery that prevents folk from posting or maybe folk have genuinely ‘moved on’, built a completely new life and don’t give this place a second thought.

Joanne
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If anyone is genuinely interested in posting on a regular basis please add your name below
or maybe you’d like to see the site disabled, again please comment below.

Thank you

Joanne

It’s relatively quiet today, just chilling with an iced drink!
I’ve obviously got too much thinking time!

I bet Ole Loser’s enjoying the return of GOT! Hopefully a distraction from the casino.

I wonder what Hidden disguises is up to … lol

I hope all is well with everyone else who used to post regularly.

I’m not going to lie, having this place to myself these past few months with no distractions has helped me enormously. However, it would be great to see this place buzzing with life again, minus me!

I didn’t wish to sound ungrateful in my previous posts, although I’ve come to realise I function best alone, this place offered excellent support and advice.

Ah well,

Joanne

Joanne
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I realise from the stats that folk visit the forum and yet nobody posts! (Except Trevor and if I recall correctly, Andy)

Why not introduce yourself ? and others may follow and a new support group could emerge.

(I’ll butt out, even disappear)

If nobody is willing to post regularly, I won’t abandon this place unless of course the site is disabled.

However, it would be great to see this place with a new lease of life!

Perhaps folk who have posted in the past have moved on, I can’t judge that, who knows?

Maybe it is time to switch off the lights?!

Ah well, the balls in your court.

Joanne

Joanne
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Just wanted to say to anyone who is struggling .. start a diary, it really does help. It gives you something to connect to, somewhere to chart your progress and writing down your thoughts really does help.

I promise not to ‘butt in’ .

Have a good day … until Sunday ..

Joanne
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Sorry, meant to add, this place has been an absolute godsend for me, just coming in here for quiet reflection on a regular basis has really helped straighten out my head , keep me focused and remain gamble free.

I’m trying to post just once a week and then in time, scale this back and eventually move on when the time feels right. I would love to see this forum being used by others.

Like I said , I realise all respect for me has been lost and I wouldnt ‘butt in’ if anyone wishes to post on a regular basis. It would be great to leave the forum knowing it is being used and hopefully helping others.

Joanne

Joanne
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I hate the thought of abandoning this place, I don’t want to be the last one to leave, having to switch off the lights! So to anyone out there who feels they may benefit from joining or returning to Rethink, please do so.

It would be absolutely brilliant if the Rethink light could burn on! A port in a storm.

Like I said, my task here is almost done, I’d be happy to fade into the background knowing this place was supporting others.

I’ll go now … until next check in .. all the very best.

Joanne

Joanne
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Sorry, I just want to add … I’ve come to realise that I’m not someone who needs praise, encouragement or support to overcome their issues. I’ve always been the type of person who likes to work through their problems and draw their own conclusions and therefore I was incompatible with the way this forum worked. I’m not trying to excuse my part in how things played out in here in the past but I’ve come to realise I probably function best when left alone. When all is said and done nobody can free you from this addiction but your own self determination and belief.

However I realise that many folk gain strength and focus from supporting others and being supported. I’m not ‘arsing’ about, I really would like to fade into the background and see the forum being the place of support it was intended to be.

Definitely last post on the subject.

Joanne

Joanne
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Ive got myself a new hobby …. tramping the Scottish hills with my metal detector! Hahaha I must look a rare sight, the only person to go metal detecting in high heeled boots, wearing the full slap (make up) HAHAHA HAHAHA Being someone who has always been intetested in history, it would be such a thrill to find something of historic value/interest.

Anyway, that’s my day off almost over … until next Sunday’s check-in …. beep, beep, beep!

Lol

Joanne

Joanne
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It’s pointless turning to gambling when we’ve had a difficult day, feeling let down or bored. We’re basically seeking comfort, even if we win, get a decent payout, we can’t walk away because we’re not chasing money we’re just paying for some comfort, relief from boredom etc. Pressing that button until the money runs out. We’ve all been there.

Better to watch a movie, go for a hike, treat yourself to your favourite take-away, buy soms plants for the garden, a browse around the shopping centre, anything is better than running to gambling!

All the best, Joanne

Joanne
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Just found some spare time to post, it’s been a hectic Easter weekend of work but enjoyable. Glorious weather too.

Sorry to read about your relapse, Trevor. I won’t patronize you with the same old advice, you know the drill. Just keep vigilant and try and remain strong when those urges rear their ugly head. Keep trying, it took me a while of trying and failing before finally straightening out my head, but it’s so worth it, just feel so much happier and content these days.

Keep fighting through that gambling fog and when it lifts you’ll find, life really is better gamble free.

All the very best to everyone,

Joanne

Trevor
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Got stressed and angry on Wednesday night and instead of handling it like a non-gambler, I reacted by gambling. Just had to lose all the money, even when up; had to keep on going till it had all gone. Feel guilty how I handled my emotions, but the release felt good in the very short term only. Now need to get my head back in the game and start again. The addiction of gambling will grab onto any weakness to mentally make you feel like gambling; the Loss of money I suffered didn’t help with the stress and anger, just made feel worse.

Joanne
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There’s life out there! … nice one Trevor, realise it’s not easy to put blocks/self exclusions in place for you guys that go to the arcades/casinos.

Just popped in to wish everyone a Happy Easter weekend!

Until Sunday ….

Trevor
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Still gambling on and off, but just now going through a good patch. Cant undo the rubbish ive shoved onto the family due to the addiction, but can try and change the future.

Joanne
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All good and gamble free!

Until next Sunday …

Joanne

Joanne
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‘One’ shall soldier on ……

I’m going to try and switch off from all things gambling … so until Sunday … Keep it gamble free.

Joanne

Joanne
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Ah well, nobody intetested in joining me! I daresay they’re queuing up to join Gamca*e’s Mrswagg89 group.

Ole lonesome me ……

Joanne

Bloody Scottish Grand national …grrrrrrrrrrrr

Joanne
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It’s not easy, only yesterday I found myself lookin’ at the runners in Saturday’s Scottish Grand National. Nearly signed up to a telephone betting company so I could place a couple of bets. Just managed to stop myself although it’s been playing on my mind.

Endless battle ….

Joanne

Joanne
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I sometimes pay an occasional visit to Gamcare, it dont know if its me but it feels like that place is fast loosing it’s way.

Rethink on the other hand works on three principles ..

1. Honesty.

2. A genuine desire to become gamble free

And

3. A good work ethic to achieving that goal.

No half heartened measures here!

Driving on to success ……

Joanne

Joanne
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So if you have a genuine desire to become gamble free, jump on board, all welcome!

It would be great to hear from you.

In the meantime, all the very best.

Joanne

Joanne
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;)

Joanne
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100 days from now and I would have been celebrating one year gf. However I did have one small blip around day 200.

That’s no big deal, 9 and a half weeks from now and it will be a whole year when I haven’t lost a single penny to gambling so fingers crossed I can hold out! (I stopped gambling in mid July to protect my June pay)

Just writing this to spurn me on.

No point in wishing anyone well, nobody worth bothering about. Far better things to do with my time.

Until Sunday night check in …

Joanne

Joanne
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* spur * lol

Joanne
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Tired … long shifts … just checking in … all’s well …. keeping it gamble free!

Have a great week.

Joanne

Joanne
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Seriously I hope you’re all doing well.

I’m not going to lie, without Gamstop I would still be in the mire . I would urge anyone who is struggling with an online gambling addiction to sign up, I’ve never regretted it, not once.

I still struggle with trying to stay away from lotto kiosks. Maybe folk think you can’t do too much financial damage buying scratchcards/lotto tickets but believe me you can. It doesn’t take long to find 10 lotto terminals in an average sized town and spend 100 pounds at each one. 10 ten pound scratchcards and thats 100 pounds gone in the blink of an eye.

Anyway, so far so good but it’s a constant battle.

I hope the new rules in place with regard to the fobts have made things more bearable for those of you who have struggled.

I do think about the guys who have had trouble staying away from the arcades /casinos, I hope you’ve found something that works for you.

I dont know if I should be mentioning this but I still find myself playing the ‘fun’ (pretend) slots. I dont know why but for some bizzare reason I find it enjoyable and relaxing. I’m inclined to play the games I used to play for real. WTF is that all about?!!!

Life isn’t very exciting .. feels like work … chores … work … . I haven’t treated myself in such a long time (bar the bargain pair of boots!) Christmas was non-existent, Easter will be the same but I’m hoping if I can hang in there for the next 10 weeks , make it to the year, it will have been worth the sacrifice.

All the very best, wishing you all a good weekend.

Until Sunday check- in …..

Joanne

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